Wedding Planning Advice: Send-off Items

In American weddings, we have a tradition of distributing a "send off" item to guests at the end of the night that they then use to celebrate the bride and groom as they exit the reception.

Previous generations used rice exclusively for their wedding send-offs. This tradition stemmed from Roman times when wheat (as a symbol of fertility) was thrown at the bride and groom. Under Queen Elizabeth I, wheat was replaced with wheat cakes, which were broken into pieces and thrown. These wheat cakes were later replaced by the more affordable substitute of rice.

These days, rice is rarely the send-off item of choice, largely because of an urban legend that rice makes birds explode when ingested. Aside from this misconception, there are many other reasons rice is rarely chosen - rice is difficult to clean-up, it's a slipping hazard, and it HURTS when you're pelted with a handful of rice.

Italian tradition is to throw confetti, symbolizing money and good fortune. Scottish tradition is to throw flower petals as a symbol of fertility. Both of these options can be troublesome to clean-up crews and are thus forbidden by many reception venues. What are other options?

Our clients frequently choose sparklers, which make a beautiful exit. But sparklers have their own troubles - they are dangerous for obvious reasons (especially when handled by inebriated guests) and are frequently not allowed, especially when there's an active "burn ban" in the area.

Bubbles are another popular option, but create a silent send-off, as it's impossible to cheer and blow bubbles at the same time.

Noise makers, streamers, kazoos, glowsticks - we've seen so many great, creative choices for send-off items!

Recently, I've noticed an increased number of couples choosing to forgo the send-off items all together, leaving the guests to simply cheer and applaud. I must say, I love this trend! It eliminates unnecessary waste, is safe, and is just as fun as the other options. Win!

What did/will you use for your send-off item? Why?

Happy Planning!

Wedding Cakes

Who doesn't love cake? For me it's one of my favorite parts of a wedding. Not only are cakes super yummy, they are also beautiful! To find the perfect cake for your wedding choose something that matches your personality and the style of your wedding. There are so many ways to jazz up a traditional white cake and still keep it simple and elegant, such as adding ribbon, flowers or designs in the icing. Those that are looking for something a little more bold, go for a cake full of color and fun. Here are some lovely examples I found on Pinterest. 

Happy Planning!

something to think about:: wedding website

Want an easy way to share all the information about your upcoming wedding day? Create a wedding website! Your guests will be thanking you :) 

If you decide to create a wedding website, here are some tips for the perfect site:

1) Easy, memorable URL: If available, try to secure a domain name that has both of your names - this makes it more memorable for your family and a bit more special for you, too. Try combinations like these examples:
Or you can make sure your wedding website fits on the invitations by using a URL shortener like Google's URL shortener or Bitly.

2) Information for Venues: You'll want your guests to have as much information as possible so they can easily find the venues and arrive on time. This page can have the following:
  • Interactive map that can supply directions. One way is to embed a Google Map.
  • Phone number for a contact at the Venue
  • Time Ceremony starts
  • Any additional special instructions or information
Pro tip: Include a link to download a document with location, phone number and other details for the venue. Some attendees will want to print the map out and have the information at their fingertips on your big day.

3) Hotel Information:
List multiple hotels in the area to offer your guests plenty of options at different price ranges. Be sure to include the following information on your hotel page:
  • Location
  • Contact information for the hotel
  • Any special rates or codes a guest should mention to get a special rate
4) Registry information: Many stores offer an online element for their registries. You can link directly to your registry from this page. Popular registries to include are:
  • Macy's
  • Crate and Barrel
  • Bloomingdales
  • Williams-Sonoma
Pro Tip: You can even add items that are not part of an official registry. For example, you can add your wish list or a link to a specific item on Etsy!

5) Proposal Story: Everyone loves a great love story, so give the people what they want! This is your chance to talk about how the proposal happened and everyone will naturally want to know all the details.

6) Photo Albums: Photo albums on wedding sites can be compiled into different categories. Here are ideas for how to organize your photos into different albums:
  • As A Couple
  • Engagement Pictures
  • Wedding Pictures
  • Honeymoon Pictures
Pro tip: For the wedding and honeymoon pictures, put up a cute placeholder image and add the photos after you're officially a Mr. and Mrs.!

7) RSVP form: Let your guests RSVP straight from the website. An easy way to do this and keep it all organized is to make a form using Google Docs, embed it in the site, and set up the form to notify you when someone has sent an RSVP.
Make this form short and sweet with a comments section so your guests can send a personalized message. Here's an idea for what fields to include in your RSVP form:
  • Will you be attending? _ Accept With Pleasure _ Regretfully Decline
  • List all Names of Guests Attending/Not Attending
  • Email Address
  • Vegetarian dish
  • Comments
8) Your Special Touch: Whether the site is designed with your wedding colors or you both have a favorite font - be sure to add a sweet digital token of your love to the site to make it yours. Other ideas include:
  • Wedding Party List - Show your friends you're grateful for all their support by mentioning them with his and hers lists. You can even list a fun fact about why they were chosen like "Sam introduced us at her Halloween party!"
  • Comment Form - This lets people leave general well wishes on your site that will be displayed publicly.
9) Vendors: Want to show some love to that cute Etsy shop that handmade your dress? Here's the chance to promote vendors that you're excited about. You can list this as links to their sites with a short description of why you love them.

10) Wedding Date: Be sure to include this on the homepage and many additional pages, perhaps at the bottom of each page (the footer) or incorporated at the top in the header.

article courtesy of Huffington Post Weddings